Friday, January 20, 2006
Ok, I can understand that you have been irritated and am feeling irritated but you mentioned yourself that you will not be affected by others comments.
As the irritation may or may not continue, it's either you choose to step back & ignore and just do your own things or you choose to step forward & blow it up. 忍一时风平浪静，退一步海阔天空
Sometimes it's all about the choices you made that result in the treatment you are getting.
Try putting yourself in other peoples' shoes, it's not just about you. You may be able to take harsh critism but it doesn't mean others can. I think what you lack of is really being thoughtful & sensitivity to people's feelings. Humans are not robots nor computers, it not about writing a program and excuting it perfectly. You really really really have to learn to be sensitive! Not asking you to be a SNAG or something but it's the least you should know if you're really thinking of surviving in the world.
Being confidence is good, but not overbroad as it reflects arrogance. Nobody's perfect and nobody's in the capacity to judge anyone. Only you can judge yourself, same goes for the others. Critism is negative by nature but if you're able to turn it into constructive comments, you may not have been treated as you are now. This is what i strongly feel.
Do what you want upon what you want others do upon you. 己所不欲，勿实于人.
As much comments Tim has to say about all of us at one point or another, notice the comments he has given are all very encouraging. Never has he once said it was lousy or bad or sh**ty or whatsoever negative stuff. Life is about learning and if you're really looking into improving HR, learn from this incident.
It's really important to do reflections daily in fact.
曾子曰：“吾日三醒吾十身：为人谋而不忠乎？与朋友交而不信乎？传不习乎？”
Learn to seek out an individual's strengths and help them instead of continuosly giving criticism. It's not being naive or to think that the world is so wonderful but this is what the society is lacking and this is resulting in producing such selfish & inconsiderate & insensitive people like you!
You've got to try harder. I'm not advising you to be nice to everyone or be that Mr. Nice Guy, it's just about being sensitive to other people's feelings. If you're sensitive enough, then stop your comments on others not being able to "SWING"!!! Keep those bad comments all to yourself and learn them so you don't make the same mistakes. At the same time, digest those bad comments and spit out positive ones like how Tim does. He thinks before he speaks!
*getting bit pek chek*
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